Here’s another post from the archives…it originally appeared on April 10, 2010. I think it’s something a lot of people can relate to:
Most people who know me would say I’m pretty relaxed…but I have a secret: under this laid-back exterior, there’s a person who gets very anxious when things don’t go according to the careful plan she has laid out in her head…
With seven people in our family, a schedule is pretty much the only way to keep from going insane. Every member’s practice, medical appointment, birthday party, dance, play, or concert is logged on a giant calendar on the side of our fridge, as are school holidays, and vacation days from work. Our lives revolve around this calendar – it is checked before committing to anything, and meals are planned around who is going to be home for supper that night.
The schedule is going to be even more important over the next couple of months – we have two daughters in cheerleading (two different teams), and they’re going into competitions – this means extra practices. One daughter is going to Quebec on a school trip. Our son is on the tech crew at school, and they’ve been working every night getting ready for the spring production of “Beauty and the Beast.” Book sale season is starting in May, and we will be travelling to other New Brunswick cities in search of stock for the store. There are lots of concerts coming up that Jim and I would like to go to as well, and we’re planning a weekend getaway trip sometime this spring.
I spend weekends doing laundry, getting groceries, and cooking for the week ahead – by the time I sat down in front of my computer last night at 9:45 p.m., the only thing I’d “accomplished” yesterday was getting groceries and making lasagna for supper (which was pretty awesome!). We spent the rest of the day running kids around (and we did see a great movie in the afternoon – “How to Train Your Dragon”). My brain was totally fried, and the blog topic I came up with yesterday morning seemed lame and unimportant – I was mad at myself for not taking the time to do my blog, which is one of the favourite parts of my day! My daughter called me a “slacker” for missing a day, and I felt like one!
Jim doesn’t get my commitment to routine – he pretty much takes things as they come. He admits that he sleeps better now that he goes to bed about the same time every night – he used to be awake until all hours, and then drag himself out of bed in the morning to go to work. Jim also eats a lot better than he did when he was a bachelor – he usually has a hot meal (with vegetables) on the table by six o’clock, and leftovers for lunch the next day, instead of fish sticks and fries at 8:00, and fast food for lunch.
However, Jim’s the one who talks me down from my tree when my self-imposed “schedule train” runs off the tracks…”Does it really matter if the laundry isn’t done today?” “Why don’t you stay home from the bookstore and get those seeds planted if that’s what you want to do?” “Let’s just barbecue tonight!” I’m so glad I found him!
I changed my plan today – I slept until 9:30 a.m.! I took the time to set my newly-sprouted seedlings outside. I made myself tea, and toad-in-the-hole for breakfast. I played on Facebook for an hour. I helped Jim and Anna wrap and beribbon 4 dozen Rice Krispies squares for the bake sale at Brianna’s cheerleading competition this afternoon. After they left, I put the first load of laundry in and started this blog post. It is now 1:15 p.m., and I’m still sitting here in my jammies! I’ll keep the washer and dryer going, and eventually, I’ll make it into the shower…we’re going to Jim’s mom’s tonight for his sister’s birthday dinner – now THAT’s important! The rest of the laundry can wait…
Tomorrow night, I’ll see my granddaughter (and her parents) for the first time in almost three weeks – I’m looking forward to that too!
I don’t think I’ll ever give up the schedule in my head, but, with my family’s help, I’ll try to stop being so anal about it…